All
our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them-Walt Disney
Confidence can be defined as the state of being aware of your abilities
and value; naturally human being is born with different abilities to save
him/her in coping with his /her surroundings. Realizing of these abilities and
value (being confident) makes a man to cope smartly with his surroundings.
Confidence is sometimes mistaken for arrogance which is something very
different from confidence. Arrogance is associated with showing off, being
macho, bragging etc. You are not confident when you put other people down to
lift yourself right.
Why
Confidence is important?
Confidence is highly needed in ensuring a man is reaching his goals, if
you lack it, your odds of failing become higher than your odds of succeeding. Researchers
found that confident children are more likely to become successful in their
academic goals etc. Another study done by the University of California-San
Diego shows that when you display confidence, you have a higher probability of
achieving your goals despite lacking certain skills or abilities,
Origin
of a lack of confidence
·
Having a sheep mind; it is a culture
of following each other like sheep, and it is because we always want to conform
to the majority. This makes us to feel that our life is controlled by a certain
individuals or group of people; hence we act what they want us to act.
·
The notion of guilty; the world is full
of guilt ridden folks, most of us have been conditioned to feel guilty, since
our childhood we have conditioned to feel in this way. The condition has made
us to seek for approval for anything that we do, guiltiness has dominated our
feelings and actions
·
Media effect; pick up any magazine or turn on a
television channel, you will be bombed with the image of gorgeous men and women
wear expensive and fashionable outfit. Though they are the ads for products and
services, in reality they want you to conform and keep up with Max, they don’t
want you to have your own thinking about their products or services.
Raise
you self confidence
There are numerous ways a person can use to raise his damaged confidence,
the effective and real one are :
·
Having a positive mental attitude; many people
believe positive mental attitude is unrealistic, nope; it is a way of
looking at your own problems and those of mankind and try to solve them through
constructive actions. Positive mental attitude allows you to build on your own
strengths and overcome your weakness; it helps you to think that you are born
to be great due to power within you.
·
Use “As If” frame; if you act as If
something is real for a long enough, you will eventually forget that you are only pretending and
however your acting will become your habit
·
Imitate someone who is confident; there is a person
who you admire due to his/her confidence. You want to be like him/her? Start to
imitate the way s/he walks, talks etc, eventually you will behave on that manner.
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